my poor bruised finger.. =(

30hr street netball is here again this june.. going to have fun again.. haha..
Extremes trg next tue.. da jia JIA YOU ba!! =)

You Are 8: The Challenger

You're brave, impulsive, and gutsy - loving challenges. You act first and think later. And you're not afraid to speak up. You are confident, so much so that you can be a bit bossy at times. Whether people like it or not, you always stand up for yourself.

People who knows me well, will know that i'm a no. 8 fan.. for no reason though, i just have a liking for this no. since errr.. secondary sch?? maybe at first, i was influenced by someone then. But i still like it now.. So after all, i am NUMBER 8. haha..
-bored-

Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it.
Boldness has genius, power, and magic
-Goethe-

Just something random.. Some words of encouragement for myself. Time to train up my stamina which is in a very bad status now.. No more excuse for me now, since i have recovered from my back muscle strain.. Hope my knee is not the next to give me problem..

I have finally come to an conclusion after few days of thoughts..
I had enough rest..
I should stop avoiding the truth in front of me..
I need to work hard in order to become stronger and skillful..
I am part of the team..
I am one of the senior player..
The team needs me now..
So i should stop being selfish..
And return to the team!
irregardless of whether is for them or me..
Let's all just work hard together.. I'll pick up from where i left..

Stamina training starts tml.. -jiayou-

& Bird, sometimes i do hope u are still in S'pore, at least i will have someone to talk to.. hope u are doing fine there.. =)

so i conclude.. the one i fear most is none other than the DENTIST. i remembered when i was in pri school, whenever there was this young lady coming into the class with a clip board, i knew that it was the dental call again.. i would then start praying that the person called out will not be me.. the dentist though is not-the-fierce-and-scary kind, the thoughts of tooth extraction and other dental treatment( esp the use of the hook check if there is anything between the tooth) put me into the scary mode. Since then, i have never and yes NEVER like to visit the dentist..

But.. i went to see the dentist today cos of tooth decay in the 2 front tooth. This time round, it lefts me with no choice cos it will directly affect my image.. haha.. laugh by all means ba.. it took me great courage to make up this decision since i have to overcome the fear in me first. i was freaking nervous while waiting for my turn.. the dental process was indeed painful and i swear upon that time that i DUN WAN to undergo this again.. I promise i will take good care of my tooth from now on( though i wont give up on my fav choc).. i will have good brushing habit, i will rmb to floss my teeth every now then now.. i will.. ...to be continued.. =)

school works are piling up as well. final examinations are coming in one month time. and after that, i'll be free for 3 months.. 3 months full of netball.. National league coming up.. and yes.. I'm returning to the team and this time, I'm giving myself the ever last chance to prove my worth on court.. -jiayou-

so in the end.. i missed today's trg cum friendly at aj again.. i failed my promise last wk.. sorry chun di.. but i know you wont blame me one.. haha...

Went majong-ing with Shawn, Alvin and his gf (Shawn, her name is Christine, not Candy) ytd at Alvin's house. Really had a great fun there cos of the nonsense that Shawn has created. and PLEASE, Shawn, dont behave like this in the public. i PROMISE, i would ignore u and disregard u as my fren. haha.. and also, i dun wan to sit at your xia jiao ANYMORE.. damn it.. how can i be so suay to pick the 'bei feng' for 3 consecutive rounds and you were the 'xi feng'. but still.. without depending much on you.. i stil won after 7 hrs of battle.. wahahahaha.. -proud-

and thanks Shawn for the ride home. i noe i'm a street idiot for not recognising the way home. haha.. and who said that a person who can excel academically cannot have a poor sense of directions.. bleah.. anyw, i promise, i will start recognising the way back from whatever expressways.. though i think i will take years to master that.. and as i said, i have the life to be chauffeured around.. =)

Extremes Netball Team

I was freaking angry with Mr Bok for abandoning the team just like that. The enthusiasm and passion he used to have for the team are gone.( like juz be'cos he is dating now) Come on la, what kind of bullshit is this. who is the one hoping that i wont be taking a break from the team for too long, who is the one saying that we should stay united and as a team, reach a greater height and who is the one saying we should train more and harder because we are going to play div 1 for this National League.. so i presumed that.. ALL THESE ARE JUST CRAPS COMING FROM HIS MOUTH!! -idiot-

Seriously ah, why not he just disband the team( of cos, that's the ever last thing i want to see) rather than allow this kind of inconsistencies and uncertainties to persist. He is just being irresponsible to his players. How can we improve on our play given that there is no formal training? How can we be a better player? No wonder, we arent able to rise up our head in the netball field. so what if our individual skill may be good, there is no way in which we can showcase our our play.. perhaps letting us go to find our way out will be a better option for us instead of clinging to us and not doing any constructive thing.

Thanks bok though, for bringing me to the netball field during sec sch times. but i'm sorry, i'm utterly disappointed with you.. i can say, if the team manage to survive this ordeal, i stay.. not cos of u but my fellow teammates who have fought hard for the past few yrs..

mi and tong.. a pity tat we dun have the time to take a group photo

i have to announce this to the whole world... We are DONE with our MARKETING PROJECT, and the PRESENTATION.. hahahaha..
Finally, my life is back to normal again, no more late nights( till 3am) and no more stayin over at xiao tong's place after the discussion. hah, but really, i need to thank xiao tong for letting me stay over at her place, and sharing part of her bed with me( anyw, her bed is queen size one hoh). And i realised, i spent 4 days out of the 1 week staying over at her place. I miss my bedie and bolster!! But luckily i can stay over at her place, if not my poor dad will have to stay up and wait for me.

Anyw, the night before the presentation( which is also the day for the submission of our final report) was terrible. We stayed up till 5am at xiao tong's place for the last min rush of work. Presentation slides, our speech, bibliography, were all not done yet. And we have to deal with the sudden change in content for xiu yan and adrienne part. And we have to rehearse our presentation.. all the 'and' and 'and' just kept popping out.. the feeling of wanting to slp but not able to was horrible.. and the climax for all is that we have to wake up at 7 to get ourselves prepared, dressed up in formal attire and cab down to to nus since our tutorial is at 9.. BTW, HOW CAN A 2 HOUR OF SLP BE ENOUGH??!! i need at least 8 hr of beauty slp lo..

luckily, our presentation works out well, the passing on to the next speaker is natural.. ya, i thought we did pretty well then despite the 'failure trials' before that.. some good comments from Sarah Fraser as well.. so.. well done, everyone!! our effort was paid off though it's a last min effort..

-lesson learned: never wait till the last min to finish any work- though, this time, it turns out to be fine..

Anyw, my day didn't end just like that after the presentation. Unlike the others who can go home and slp, i have to attend a subject pool study( for marketing) at 12.30 and a changi beach trip at 2pm.. =/ i tried to slp while travelling in the bus BUT uncle Shawn, uncle alvin and uncle thomas were far too noisy, chatting and laughing loudly.. so i joined in lo though much of the time i wasnt paying attention.. =P the journey was longer than i expected, which took around 45 min to 1hr.. it was raining when we reached, haha.. which was what i hoped.. but, it stop raining after a while. damn.. sun was out to say hello to a long-time fren i supposed.. we saw many marnine creatures, like the shy hermit crab, swimmer crabs, barnacles, jellyfish, the squirt, slug, puffer fish and the tripod fish( i supposed the name itself is self explanatory).. the puffer fish is reaaaaaaalllliiii cuteeeeeee and the puffering effect can be induced one!! it looks like a balloon to me.. wahahaha... so fun so fun.. fortunately the trip turned out to be fun and interesting enough for me to forget abt the slpness i need.. and uncles, if u all din realise, i have been tryin to stand behind u ppl for the shade.. haha.. and thanks kendrick for offering the greatest shade.. haha.. (ppl u noe why.. )

dinner at tampiness mall after that.. was really shag after meal and i slept throughout the journey in bus 969.. hmmmppff.. and there is no weird ah pek or blackie sitting beside mi can.. haha..

miss the trg in the morning.. =/ hope chun di will not call later to scold.. haha.. i promise, i'l turn up for the next sat trg.. errr.. i hope.. =)

dun be mistaken by the photo..


we won!! by 1 goal.. & that's a goal i would nv forget..

juz smtin random.. netball life back in aj is really unforgettable.. the tough trgs we have been through together like the after training sprint and circuit trainings.. i will never forget the times when we spent together, the encouragement we gave each other.. and thanks people for withstanding my attitude on and off court.. i've changed.. reallli!! heehee..

to my dear juniors, continue to work hard for the coming A div, i know it's not easy.. but you guys gonna juz keep trying.. nv give up.. play hard, and i believe victory will be yours.. =) jiayou!!

Labels: NETBALL

a couple of deadlines to meet:
1) the marketing project:
submission of draft-- 13March
submission of group report-- 16March
preparing presentation slides-- 16March

2) sociology term assignment: 23March

hurr.. =/

anyway, had a long chat with Alvin after our stats tutorial.. and he tried computing the probability of finding true love( eg. P(of finding a gal that u like), P(of finding a gal that u like, likes u as well), P( of meeting her in the crowd)..) and so, if u apply the multiplication rule, the chance may be 1 over a thousand or a million??!! woah~~ that's terrible lo.. so in the end he concluded that all this depends on fate.. and lucky him, to e able to find his true love despite the NANO chance.. and i guess in a few yrs time, this uncle of mine will get married.. haha..

and he goes on to say that the kind of guy that u are looking for( the traits in them) will usually not be found in ur long-term bf or gf.. -_-" huh.. so that means that i wun be able to find a smart, tall and sporty guy la.. haiyo..

oh ya, changi beach trip this fri.. dunnno to go or not.. =/

i just realised.. i'm such a KUKU.. haha.. ytd after the selection, my back started to hurt again and i went to buy the tiger balm plaster to relieve the pain.. i guess the pain was to unbearable and made mi not in-the-right mind.. inside the package, there are three adhesive sheets( for added adhesiveness)and i am SUPPOSED to place the plaster onto the centre of the adhesive sheet before sticking on my back la.. haha.. but guess what i did.. i din place the plaster onto the adhesive sheet and i was just merely placing the adhesive sheet onto my back.. haha..no wonder, i dun feel the warm at all.. omg.. and i juz realised it onli, erm.. like a couple of min ago... ok.. tat was indeed embarrassing.. =/

i'm back in Mac now, doing the marketing project with xiao tong and xiuyan.. so shag after the selection, but still, we have quite abit of work to do.. so hah, rushing through the night again..( now is 1.54am.. =( )
anyw, i have a good new and a bad new with regards to the selection just now.. bad new is my chance of being selected is zero, cos of some inside situations that best not publicized about.. the good news is I"M BACK!! the old mi is returning.. something i feel that is more important than getting into the team.. i have overcome the fear in mi, the fear of playing in the higher level.. my passes are more stronger and the drive is back.. with no worries on court, i can do everything that is of cos within my ability.. that's al for now.. cos i tink they will start scolding mi for bloggin.. will update again.. =)

the time now is 1.40, so in roughly 2.5 hours time i would be in toa payoh sports hall for the NSL selection. Pretty worried right now, getting in or not will depend on my performance later, a test of whether i have regained my confidence on court. And i'm not sure whether my back will give me any problem since i havent tried exercising after the bad muscle strain last Friday. With the no-stamina- mi now, getting in is really a bonus to me and an extra allowance for me as well.. =)

Anyway, ever since i graduated from ajc, my netball life hasnt been very smooth and promising. Many a time is due to the lack of confident on court which i dunno how it actually come about. I remembered i wast like that in the past.. Hah, and when i tell my friends about this, they were all laughing at mi( hey u are the full of confidence freak lohz.. are u sure??)DAMN it. but still, u guys are my great pal, accompanying me through many of the torturous training and together we have put up with fierce fight in many of the leagues and carnivals. cheerios~~

ok, enough of blogging, time to get back to my marketing report. and, anyone who see this blog, do u all have any ideas what is difference between potato chips and crisps?? and there must be differences since that is one of the question we are suppose to ans... arrrrgh..

thought of blogging this out cos there was a heated debate on this during our sociology tutorial:
Female Genital Mutilation: Cultural Relativism or Ethnocentrism??

Ethnocentrism is the tendency to judge other cultures exclusively by the standards of one's own.
Cultural Relativism is the belief that all cultures have equal value.

FGM, although frequently associated with Islam, it is rare in many predominantly Muslim countries. It is a social custom, not a religious practice. Unfortunately, over 132 million women and girls worldwide have undergone female genital mutilation. And about 2 million girls are at risk of undergoing it every year. ( scary stats, ya??)

FGM is typically a preformed as a rite of passage on girls between the ages of 4 and 14. In some cultures, people think it enhances female fertility. Women who have not experienced it, are said to be less likely to remain virgin before marriage and faithful within it. Some even think that FGM eradicates sexual arousal in women.

so for this issue, we are basically split into 2 groups, each with their own perspective
one with the "human rights perspective" and the other one regards the human rights perspective as ethnocentrism.
of course, under the human rights perspective, arguments such as this form of violence against women should be eradicated. Pain, humiliation, psychological trauma and loss of sexual pleasure are definitely something that we couldnt imagine and understand. Furthermore, we have to consider that all these surgical practices are usually not done with proper sterilisation and possiblilty of infection is high. Internal bleeding, increase susceptibility to HIV, hep B eventually will lead to the death of the women unergoing FGM. So, we conclude that FGM should be eradicated and people found performing this practice should be put to death!! ( T.A. : that'a a bit serious huh)

Proponents of the second perspective on FGM are cultural relativism. They regard the human rights perspective as ethnocentrism, which means that we are interfering with the their practices. From their point, all talk about "universal human rights" denies cultural sovereignty to less powerful peoples. We should affirm the rights of other cultures to practice FGM even if we regard it as destructive, senseless, oppressive, and abhorrent. To them, this practice may seem of value and we should respect them and not because they are the less powerful bunch so we exert our superiority over them, forcing them to completely remove this practice.

so people, what's your take on this?? which perspective is more compelling.. although it is naturally that people will agree that this form of cruelty should be removed COMPLETELY from the society today, then what is the respect of other cultures that we are constantly talking about?? are they all talks without real actions? if we try to remove this practice by force, will people think that we are simply exerting our superiority over them?? and when we are still arguing about this issue( be it months or year before we come to a conclusion), we have to realise that many girls at the same time have been force to undergo FGM.. tragic life huh..

The Story of David Reimer

on April 27, 1966, an identical 8 mth twin boys were brought to the hospital to be circumcised( the removal of the foreskin of the penis and is said to be of a hygiene issue). Because the head doc was not present tat time, his assistant took the case to his own and performed the small op. During this op, an electrical cauterizing needle which a device for to seal the bloodvessel as it cuts. However, as the assist. doc was performing the op, he accidentally burned off one of the boy's penis... and this starts the sad story of David Reimer.


of cos, after the failed op, his parents desperately sought medical help and no matter whom they seek, the conclusion is stil the same- and tat is he has to accept that he is unable to consummate marriage and have normal heterosexual relations. He has to accept that he is incomplete and physically defective.

So happen that on one evening when his parents are watching tv, they heard about this psychologist, Dr John Money. he was then well known for this research on intersexed infants- babies that are borned with ambiguous genitals. In his opinion, infants with 'unfinished genitals' should be assigned a sex by surgery and hormone treatment and reared with his assigned sex. Only by this way, the child is able to develop a sense of self identity.


His parents then wrote to him who urged them to bring the child over to him immediately. After several discussion, they decided to allow his son to undergo sex reassignment( and that is convert him to a female). So, they stop cutting his hair, dressed him in feminine clothes, and even changed his name to Brenda. surgical castration was performed. earlier reports have shown to success of the conversion; that she starts to be fascinated by dolls and disdain cars. At puberty, she began taking regular dose of the female hormone, oestrogen.


This case has brought fame to Dr John Money, who proved that 'conventional patterns of masculine and feminity behaviour can be altered..which means that our sex is no longer determined by what genes we have( remember the X and Y chromosome).


However, in 1980, Brenda learned about her sex reassignment from her father. Unable to suffer her imposed sexual identity any longer, she stopped taking oestrogen. years later, she performed a surgery to have her breasts removed and a penis constructed and took the name David. At age 25, he married a women and adopted her three children. but that did not end his ordeal, at the age of 38( 2004) he committed suicide.


imagine a life of a boy was being ruined just like that. at such a young age, he has to suffer from all these surgical pains. and not forgetting the psychological impact on her when his classmates called him a 'stonegal'. His grades suffered. At the age of 9, she had a nervous breakdown and at the age of 14, she attempted suicide.